The Shenanigan Of Life

According to science, the probability of a human being born is one in 400 trillion! That is a pretty huge number and very rare probability. According to evolution, The first human ancestors appeared between five million and seven million years ago, and the present sized brain was formed 130,000 years ago. We used brain to be where we are now with all the luxuries and comforts. The primary work of the brain is the power to think and simplify things. But there are adverse effects on the same. So what is the Shenanigan (a devious trick used mainly for an underhand purpose) gift of the life? The human brain ability to think. Why did I call it a sneaky trick? Humans tend to use it with care at first, and then overuse it spoiling the purpose of it.

The vital part of thinking is finding a logic to deduce complex problems and convert them into simple solutions. So far it is good, when we overthink, we overcompensate the things, and instead of finding answers, we invent new complicated and unnecessary questions. By unnecessary questions, there come pointless methods to find solutions. What happens when we overthink about a situation in life? We feel stressed. Stress leads to loneliness as we do not want to talk to people when we are stressed. What happens if we do not speak? We become lonely, which leads to depression. Depression leads to much more mental health-related problems. And in the end, there comes that thought, which is the 4th leading cause of death for adults ages 18-65 that is “Suicide.” Even worst, it is the third leading cause of death in 15-19-year-olds.

 Let us go by the academics of student life for graduation ( The reason I’m talking students is most of the suicides occur at age 15-19). For suppose there are 10,000 good seats of engineering which include top colleges and universities, and the student who writes the exam to get selected is 10 Lakhs. First and foremost, this equation is very illogical and dangerous. Illogical equation because, how is it a students fault when there only 10,000 good engineering college seats in the whole nation? Isn’t the responsibility of the colleges and the government to improve the standards? Dangerous equation because the student is literally compared to all the objects in the universe by the parents, relatives, etc., and it creates a trauma. These people never question the government or the university to improve the standards.

Let us consider a scenario to understand the difference between thinking and overthinking. What is the basic concept of the exam? Some professor, who is located in some part of the country, prepare a question paper, which he feels is necessary and asks students these ten lakhs students to answer, from which another professor evaluates and picks the 10,000 candidates. For suppose a student is not among the group of 10,000. Logically a student has to think in the following way, “according to 2 people from the 7.8 billion people in the world, think I’m not eligible for this course, for the questions I answered this year. Let us give it another try or try a different one.” But is the student thinking in the same way? Nope, they Complicate it and think, ” I’m useless compared to 10,000 students who got the seat. My dreams are shattered! Everybody got the same questions, then why didn’t I get the seat?” By this overthinking and added parental pressure, their suicidal tendency increases and some of them end their life. 

There are other causes of suicides in youngsters as well. A couple of them are love and career choices. Why do people commit suicide due to love? What is love? You like a person because of their qualities and want that person to be with you forever because it makes you happy. What should anyone think when their love is rejected by the other person? They should think, “I’m rejected by this person because they didn’t like the qualities I have. I’m living with these qualities since all the past years. I’m sure I will find the one who likes me.” But they complicate it and think, “I’m rejected by the person of my dreams! What is the purpose of living? I cant face reality any more.” Same goes with the career. In a company, one manager by this knowledge thought a person is not eligible for the promotion and rejected them. They take it personally by overthinking and end their life. We always say that people should have opinions. What is an opinion? It is an idea on something which you developed by your own knowledge and thinking. Why are we not applying the same opinionated thinking before ending life?

In the end, any problem in life has a simple solution if we think logically, but we complicate the things and spoil our mental health. As I said at the start, the probability of a human being born is 1 in one in 400 trillion. Let us not spoil the beauty of the formation by ending it abruptly. Let us find the right solutions for the problem by thinking and not overthinking.

Links for reference:

W.H.O on suicides: https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/suicide

Infertility? Take it with a smile, it’s not a taboo!

By – Gayatri Agarwal

She can’t bear a child! What a shame! She can’t even keep her man and the family happy! Is she fit for anything?

Why can’t it be him? Why can’t we have a holistic analysis of any problem? Why is it that we blame the women first?

Infertility! It is NOT a taboo!

In India, about 1 in 6 couples are impacted by it. Nearly 27.5 million couples actively trying to conceive, suffer from it. India is a country with a wide diversity. There is diversity in customs, traditions and quality of living. All these factors contribute to Infertility along with our lifestyle, the food we eat, our habits, the climatic conditions and the stress levels too. 

Misconceptions about Infertility run deep; from family members to society at large, people widely hold opinions about it. Infertility is often considered as a subject which is not to be spoken or discussed off because of the lack of awareness and the fact that people tie it with religious norms, status symbol and family pride even today, oh yes, by even today. I mean this is the 21st century!

The myths and the judgements that are attached with Infertility are numerous. They are such that they will instigate the person who wouldn’t have thought about it even in his/her dreams, such is the power of the society. Instead of relating Infertility to one’s karma or playing the blame game, one must be supportive of the couple without making them feel like their social or personal identity is being compromised. 

As per recent stats, in cases of Infertility, female factors account for 40%, men 40% and the other 20% is from both. So we can clearly say that there is equality here at least and that too with a proof. So, why is it that we assume that something must be wrong with the women if the couple doesn’t have a child? Why is the manhood never questioned? And even if it is why the ego clash? Nobody is born perfect and making peace and understanding with the imperfections is what makes a couple a real couple! Why is the focus on women when it should be on both? Child-bearing is as much responsibility of men as it is that of the women.

Whether it is a low sperm count, low sperm motility, or abnormal sperm, male Infertility can result from many causes. Admitting that the male could be infertile can help the couple save a lot of treatment time, procedures and lessen the pressure and stress on them. Getting the right help for the right person at the right time can empower the couples and make their lives move at ease.

With the medical advancements available now, it’s time to look beyond the petty things of blaming; by understanding and acknowledging Infertility to be like any other medical condition which can be treated easily. As a society, what an Infertile couple needs the most from us is to be held up and assured with empathy, maturity, and most importantly, to be listened to without being judged. Let’s make them feel welcome so that they can address this condition as healthy people and move forward with their lives happily!

And for any men dealing with this situation, a little understanding, a fist full of maturity and lots of support for your women is what will get you through this situation with ease and lots of love! Only after the thunderstorm and rain comes the rainbow. 

Let’s celebrate fitness for a healthier tomorrow

By- Gayatri Agarwal

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Fitness, a term everyone understands but never really pay attention to! In the upgrading and fast-moving world, where new technology comes up every fortnight, we have become so comfortable with the life wherein we want to put in the least physical effort. The technology has simplified many physical challenging or demanding tasks, but it’s also making us lazy and less fit. 

Our ability to carry out daily tasks and routine physical activities without undue fatigue is called physical fitness. But how many times do we actually do our work by ourselves? Physical fitness is much more than doing our job; it’s about building our endurance, strength and keeping our heart healthy throughout.

Your body is your best friend and your home. So it is our responsibility to keep our home clean, full of positivity and strength, isn’t it? Because at the end of the day, that’s the place you are going to live all your life. One should take care of their body as if it were their home. For example, when you see that your home is breaking down from places, the first thing we do is to get it fixed rather than deteriorate the condition from bad to worse. So, why not do the same with our body? When we cling on to bad habits like smoking, alcohol, etc. we know that in the long run, it’s only going to deteriorate our health. So why don’t we fix our habits and keep our body clean and in good condition?

Your body needs you to the most whether it’s yesterday, today or tomorrow. It’s forever going to need YOU, and it’s your responsibility to do the best for it. Living a fit and healthy life is an important goal now more than before, as we have a clearer picture of how an unhealthy lifestyle can impact our everyday lives.

The best part is that now, it’s easier than ever to find resources for a healthier life. With all the information available online, leading a healthy life would be a piece of cake if you have the determination and focus for it. We all know that a healthy body leads to a healthy mind, so what are we waiting for now? We know how to keep our mind positive. 

So let’s all come together for our selves and move towards a healthier life. Because your one step towards fitness today can help reduce or mitigate the risk of any diseases trying to come close to your tomorrow.

It can even be 10 minutes to start with, use those 10 minutes to the maximum and see the happiness and confidence you will feel once you are done. We are in this fit tomorrow, together!